Showing posts with label Parents. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Parents. Show all posts

Saturday, 22 February 2025

Goldilocks Mother by Elizabeth Obadina


 The door slammed shut

With sound and fury

Rattling windows in their frames.


A gulf of silence

Swallowed the angry words,

Swallowed the I-hate-you-s

And love grew worried.


The silence grew

Filling corners

And her chair

And her hiding place under the stair

And love waited


Until

Plucking a lantern

From a hook on the wall

And wrapping a cloak tight

Over her shawl,

Love ventured out


Into the winter woods

Where the bears roamed wild

And the winds whined,

After the child

Who had stormed away

Stamping

And refusing to eat

The porridge that

Love set before her.

28th July 2015

(First Published in a Hightown Writers Anthology A Book of Delights 2016)

Saturday, 21 September 2024

Cooking Smells - the smells of the week and 'Surprise Saturday' by Kay Yendole


My Mother was an extraordinary cook. When I say extraordinary, it does not mean wonderful, more unusual.

Her life was orderly and neat and whether it was due to post war rationing and availability or to her sense of order you could always tell the day of the week by the smells emanating from the kitchen.

Traditional roast on Sunday, cottage pie on Monday, liver and onions on Tuesday, Irish Stew on Wednesday, sausages on Thursday, fish on Friday and a surprise on Saturday.  Surprise Saturday was when Mother would cook something, different, something more exotic like a Bolognese or Goulash, it wasn’t always a success though. Her daily cooking comprised overcooked vegetables and very little seasoning other than salt pepper and a bay leaf.  The natural flavours of homegrown vegetables and good quality meats were her saving grace, not her culinary skills. But surprise Saturday brought out a completely different woman who would present to the table an exciting concoction of flavours and an irresistible smell of something foreign that lingered round the house for several days afterwards.

Nasi Goreng was a particularly remembered dish. The everlasting string of garlic was only used on Saturday and an array of bottles and tubs of spices would come out from the back of the pantry. Sambal Orek was one ingredient never forgotten, my curiosity curbed once after I sneeked a taste from the jar and fire hit my palette. Mother just laughed at the look on my face as this Indonesian spice imprinted its memory on me forever. It is a spice that needs to be cooked out for a few hours to really appreciate its true deep rich flavour but it is not finger licking good in its raw state.

The Saturday surprise seemed to take all day to cook, once early morning market shopping was out of the way a continuous stream of chopping and frying with each component of the dish was carefully done. Occasionally usually a birthday it would be twenty one different dishes, a Ristofel of which Nasi Goreng was only one dish. The smells and taste of each one was distinctly different and I was fascinated as a child to sit and watch this magical preparation of food take place. Gado was one of my favourite components where for once the life of the vegetable was not boiled out of its skin but simmered gently in a rich spicy peanut sauce.  We were also delighted  to have a choice for once as Mother never dished this meal up on a plate but presented each dish separately on its own little platter and you could help yourself  to what you liked but only one spoon of each.  To have more than one protein in a meal was in itself a treat, to have egg, meat and fish as well as an array of vegetables, pickles and rice were true smell and taste sensations, activated strongly, by the exotic different spices.

It wasn’t just our house the smells invaded but half way down the street I could swear I could smell it still. Even dessert was a surprise on Saturdays. Away from the bland bread and butter pudding and blancmanges we would have pineapple upside down cake or banana fritters with ice cream.  Also apart from rice pudding it was the only time we ate rice, sometimes white or yellow or even orange coloured and differently flavoured.

The only names I remember apart from Nasi Goreng, and Gado are Soto, Rendang the hottest one, Satay a peanut chicken dish. Such an explosion of smells and flavours; hot, warm, cold, crispy, crunchy and smooth textures; salty, sweet, tangy, sour, bitter and of different strengths. The array of spices carefully measured was astounding, all those colourful yellows, oranges, red powders and different fresh green herbs were such a contrast to the salt, pepper and a bay leaf regime Mother usually employed.  It was an assault on the senses, the colours, the smells, the tastes and how beautiful it all looked spread out on the table. Mother would even say she could hear the Roti Gambang bread when it was ready to take out the oven.

It was a lot of work but Mother would spend all day in the kitchen in its preparation and I loved to help. Marion and John kept well out the way and I felt privileged to be allowed to handle these precious spices and endlessly chop herbs. I was not allowed to chop the chillies though and again my curiosity taught me why when my eyes streamed after touching the seeds.

Later early in the sixties I remember the first local Chinese take away restaurant opening, my Mother was keen to try it but my Father said ‘I’m not eating foreign muck, making bullets for the yellow army”. But surprise Saturday never bothered him.

Thursday, 19 September 2024

Our Day out at Wigmore Abbey - a memory explored at the 'Do The Write Thing' Workshop - by Adam Rutter

credit Adam Rutter

Mum, Dad and me visited Wigmore Abbey

Home of the actor John Challis

We knew him as Boycie

In the TV sitcom

Only Fools and Horses His house

In rural Herefordshire September 2003

Last day for summer sun

Large wrap around green

Encircled the house

People wandered leisurely

Admired flowers

Chatted with John

Market traders sold plants

Collecting proceeds for Red Cross

‘Della would’ve like it here,’ said Mum

I was happy to be there Sad that Della wasn’t alive to enjoy it

Crowds gathered round

For photos and autographs

Dressed in my captain Jean Luc Picard T-shirt

‘You can’t come here with another actor,’ said John

Pretending to draw hair and moustache

With his felt-tip

He stood behind us being Boycie

Camera button clicked

Tuesday, 17 September 2024

The Kite by Irena Szirtes

 

I was his little girl;

I was his laughter,  speaking

‘Lily of the Lavvie’ before

I knew I meant ‘Valley’;

I was his laughter,

Insisting on my ‘Lizzie Hat’,

Calling my doll ‘Gaitey’,

Imitating foghorns,

Saying ‘gongits’, my sister’s word

For iron-work on roof corners.

His words were laughter, too:

He called sleet ‘snizzle’, how

Easy to mix snow and drizzle

When English is new.

We stored, stirred, reconstituted laughter:

Often remembered the man

Who skiddled down Winder,

Sliding the scree, flailing,

Raising his hat as he racketed past,

Pretending all was well!

He let laughter explode through

His whisper,  let it ambush us:

‘Let’s wait!” he said, and how

We relished shared naughtiness

When the show-off lady plunked off the weir

Stilettos flying, her yellow blouse and

Vermilion skirt billowing, bouffant,

Like pirate sails in the Rawthey!

I was his little girl, his laughter,

So when I lost the kite he made,

When I flew it alone In disobedience,

When it snagged a tree-top,

When it flailed and flapped

Like seagull wings stricken In wire,

 I was afraid to tell.

And three days after the kite

Died impaled,  shreds blowing

And blinking from summer sun,

I came down for breakfast

When I knew he’d gone to work,

When I knew disappointment

Had walked out the door.

And then I saw a new-built kite.

It stood sharp and shiny,

As white and red and ribboned

As a Polish flag, and I knew

I was still his laughter,

Still his little girl.  


Saturday, 14 September 2024

Dad's Summer Holiday by Jennie Hart

Throughout my life with my parents, I do not remember a family holiday. Mum owned a shop selling groceries and sweets, open every day of the year except Christmas Day. She was a hard worker and only when I was old enough to manage the shop in the school holidays, did mum take a break with her mother, my grandma.

My dad was not the kind of person who ever went on holiday; he was small in stature and elegant, a working-class man who also enjoyed life’s luxuries. He dressed in suits from Austin Reed and bought Sobranie Black Russian cigarettes with their dull black covering and exotic gold tips. He was especially fond of Glenfiddich scotch whiskey. Sometimes he told of memorable experiences when he was stationed in Gibraltar during the war. Once, having watched his army pals swim in the island’s harbour, he was envious of the fun they were having, so jumped in, off the harbour wall too. He couldn’t swim and nearly drowned but was fortunate to be rescued.

Throughout my life, dad was nervous and a little unworldly; he rarely travelled far from home. A day out for him was taking the bus or train to Kingston upon Hull, twenty miles away. It was therefore a surprise one particular summer when dad announced he would go on holiday to Coventry to stay with brother Cyril.

Tuesday, 22 September 2020

Family 2: Absence by Geoffrey Speechly


When you are young and scarcely formed

You know there’s something else, not just

Your growing body, your heart quick warmed

By a kindly word, a smile, a feeling that you must

Do something, be someone, change the world

But there is an absence here, you do not know

What lies ahead, what may befall, what wind

Will blow the vessel of your mind to north

Or south or east or west; which way’s the worst

Or with good fortune may turn out to be the best

Later, in full flush of man or womanhood

Caught by an interested glance or a word

Or thought or idea, a hook not quite 

Designed another to entrance, your whole being

Can only see the one, the one! Then he or she

Defects, no longer laughs at your loving words 

And goes – another absence. 

Later still, you’ve found your  heart

Live in love;  together  bear the symbols 

Of  you both and watch them grow and grow

Strong   but away; another absence.

We are the parents, now. 

And that's when it hits: when your parents die, 

One and then  the other : now you’re alone.

Though they were old, and nothing knew

of all the things that you now know,

And they are gone, and when your son

or daughter asks "What's this, or that? "

Or "how did granddad get his scar?"

Or "is grandma in Heaven now?"

Then, like the last curtain on a stage

you realise that now  the page of knowing

that your mother or your father,

however frail, was always there, a backdrop for your life;

Is absent for ever, and another, newer  curtain opens, 

Another stage is set, 

And you must step forward, 

For  we  are  the parents, now.



(First Published in a Hightown Writers Anthology A Book of Delights 2016) 


Monday, 21 September 2020

Family 1: Being a Parent: Was it a Wasp? Calling Mum ... A tantalising half-a-tale of a long ago Freshers' Week overheard on a bus by Elizabeth Obadina

A phone rang. 
A lady with salt and vinegar hair, wearing steel rim glasses and a white hoodie answered,"

“Well if it stung you put vinegar on it.
It’s alright …
No … I should be home about half three.
Where’s it’s swelling?
You need to know what it is.
Only put vinegar on for a wasp.
Yeah … it’s amazing how much it hurts!
Sounds a lot like a wasp.
Doesn’t look like a wasp?
Where was it?
Oh! That wasn’t very nice of it …
Are you on your own now?
Oh, it’s freshers’ week now is it?
You’re on your own now?
No …
If it keeps on getting bigger then you’d better get to a chemist to check that it’s nothing else.
Aah uh … (laughs gently)
Maybe she can fix it for you?
You’re hoping are you?
It sounds like it.
They don’t last forever…”

And on that ambiguous note, the lady on the bus snapped her phone cover shut, rang the stop bell and got off leaving her fellow passengers agog for answers: Who was the companion? Where was the sting? Was it a wasp or something much worse? AND What doesn't last forever? The sting? The companion? Freshers' Week? Life?